A phrase I hear often is "Learn to forgive yourself." Another is "You can't love others until you learn to love yourself."
My issue with these quotes:
1. Only God can forgive sins, Jesus said. I don't see any scripture that says I'm to forgive myself. Rather, I am to accept his forgiveness and extend it to others.
2. Jesus said to love others as we love ourselves. He knew human nature better than anyone. He assumes we love ourselves. Self-consciousness, self-esteem, self-pity, self-loathing. He died to eliminate all of this. We are to love God and die to self. The more we grasp at keeping our own life, loving our life, we will lose it. If we lose our life for his sake, we are saved.
I am to see myself in his light. Then, when I am truly worshipping, I will not be aware of it or myself because my entire heart, soul, mind and strength will be taken with him.
Am I missing something?