Do what you love. Love what you do.
I'm so incredibly grateful that the hard work, dedication and cooperativeness of my husband has made it possible for me to become a Sidetracked Home Executive (SHE). I get sidetracked by all that needs to be done at home and church and school and neighborhood. I don't know how I didn't completely lose my mind working outside the home.
"The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura is one of three books I am reading concurrently. I read in snippets while waiting in the dentist's office, the school parking lot, etc. or when I take a break for myself in between my other duties. She contends that man's needs are very basic: feed 'em, love 'em, cheer for them, ask politely once for what you really need, and keep your mouth shut about the rest. Okay, so that's really a very terse summary but I'm not far off. It has given me such a clear sense of how important it is to let hubby know how much I appreciate what he does.
I also talked with my son about the bad habit I had developed in being critical of his dad in A's presence and I apologized to him for that. I committed out loud to A that I would determine to change that habit and replace it with encouragement and could he find ways to encourage dad himself?
I am completely convinced that the absence of encouragement and the all-too-present nitpicking may well be the single most powerful depressant I have thoughtlessly leveled against my husband.
May God help me to have a complete paradigm shift in this matter.